Either you are rich or you are rock

In Italian, the phrase “O sei ricco o sei rocco” works because of the assonance between “ricco” and “rocco”. The two words differ by a single vowel, yet they evoke entirely different forms of power. The sound similarity makes the contrast sharper, almost playful, while the meaning underneath is anything but light. “Rich” (ricco) is … Read more

Hurry up and wait!

“Hurry up and wait” is one of those expressions that compresses an entire institutional culture into four words. It was widely used in the Royal Navy and later in the United States Navy to describe a familiar rhythm of military life: urgent mobilisation followed by long, immobile anticipation. Orders arrive. Everything must be done immediately. … Read more

Etc. = Etm ?

In recent times, across social networks and chats, a curious pseudo-Latin abbreviation has appeared: “etm”, used in contexts where one would normally find “etc.”. According to some, it stands for “et merda”, that is, “and shit”, placed at the end of a list to give the same flavour as the more straightforward English “and shit”, … Read more

You must have the courage to do what is right …

“You must have the courage to do what is right, whatever the risk.It is the only way to live with yourself.” (Attribution uncertain; sometimes attributed to Capt. Lawrence Chambers) This quote, in its simplicity, recalls an ancient principle: moral courage is required to do what is right, even when it involves risks, pressure, or unpleasant … Read more

Very cold weather!

• Brits call it “the Beast from the East”• Germans call it “der Sibirische Bär” (the Siberian Bear)• Americans call it “Snowmageddon”• Canadians call it “Monday” (because it is nothing special)• Nordics call it “Thursday” (and ask if you are alright)• Russians call it “весна” (vesna: spring)• Poles call it “zima” (winter)• Spaniards call it … Read more

A fool only learns from his own mistakes…

A fool only learns from his own mistakes.The wise man learns from the mistakes of others.(Otto von Bismarck)Otto, Prince of Bismarck, Count of Bismarck-Schönhausen, Duke of Lauenburg (born Otto Eduard Leopold von Bismarck; 1815–1898) was a Prussian statesman and diplomat who oversaw the unification of Germany. Bismarck’s Realpolitik and firm governance resulted in him being … Read more

“What will remain when I am gone? I do not care.”

The French expression “Après moi, le déluge” survives because it captures a familiar human reflex with ruthless clarity. The literal translation is simple: “After me, the deluge.” Older English sometimes makes the attitude explicit:“When I am dead, the deluge can come for all I care.” In modern terms:“I will take what I want now. Whatever … Read more

Language as an interpretative framework shaping how people think

Research in psycholinguistics and social psychology shows that the use of different languages can be associated with consistent variations in behaviour, emotional expression, and modes of self presentation among bilingual and multilingual individuals. Numerous empirical studies indicate that each language tends to activate specific cultural frameworks, together with social norms, communicative conventions, and patterns of … Read more

Sicilian linguistic features

In Sicilian one says “accattari un picciriddu”: literally, “to buy a child”. An expression that, to modern ears, may sound amusing or disorienting. Yet behind those seemingly improper words lies a precise linguistic history and an ancient way of understanding birth. The verb “accattari” did not originally mean “to buy”. In older language and in … Read more

The hours pass and are accounted for

“Pereunt et imputantur”“The hours pass and are accounted for.” It is a Latin expression that reminds us of the importance of not wasting time and of making it fruitful, one of the most famous phrases engraved on ancient sundials. Its meaning is clear and relentless: time does not merely flow, it accumulates on our account. … Read more

How Italians choose a restaurant without checking reviews

(Inspired by a post by “Heritance Italy”) If you have ever wondered how Italians consistently manage to find good food, the answer is disarmingly simple: we almost never check reviews. Not because we distrust technology, but because we trust something older, sharper and infinitely more reliable — instinct, observation and a lifetime of culinary literacy. … Read more

What it means to be responsible doctors

This week I underwent surgery to remove a cataract. A simple procedure, at least when described: the surgeon enters the eye, removes the “damaged” crystalline lens, and replaces it with a new one, selected to compensate for any pre-existing visual defects. This is the account of an ordinary patient whose quality of life has improved … Read more

Why Are Italians Always Late? (Should be: Why Do People WRONGLY Believe Italians Are Always Late?)

Italians are not always late, but the stereotype persists because it contains a grain of cultural truth — a small one, the size of a coffee bean, but still enough to fuel an entire international myth. It is not really about punctuality in the strict sense. It is about a different relationship with time, one … Read more

One, No One and One Hundred Thousand

A dear friend of mine has found himself today in a situation that is authentically “Pirandellian” (as in Luigi Pirandello, 1934 Literature Nobel Laureate). A cyber-attack has caused him to lose his main social media account, the one through which he used to speak to the world. That account was tied to an alias, and … Read more

Why is the “pot-licker” kitchen tool called “Marisa” in Italian?

We are talking about one of the most common and indispensable kitchen tools: the rubber or silicone spatula, more commonly known in English as a “rubber spatula” or simply a “scraper”. The rubber spatula consists of a long handle, usually made of wood, steel, or rigid plastic, and a flat, soft, flexible tip, today almost … Read more

Arguing with the biased

Today I learnt something simple and hard: when a discussion slips into a clash of identities, reason switches off.
We are no longer talking about ideas; we are defending tribes.
At that point you waste time and, worse, you risk losing the friend.

Why it happens

Bias and identity.
If an idea is glued to the ego, any argument feels like a personal attack.

Holding your ground: when ‘to break rather than bend’ is the right choice

Flexibility helps us negotiate and grow, but at times it slips into yielding and, with it, the renunciation of what defines us.

Flexibility is a means, not an end: it is useful until it touches the core of principles — truth, safety, dignity, legality. Beyond that line, to bend is not intelligence, it is abdication.

Reputation, built over years and lost in a minute, lives precisely on this boundary.

If hard work led to success …

“If hard work led to success, the donkey would own the farm.”

But it does not.
The donkey works the hardest, from dawn to dusk, and yet remains where it started — tired, obedient, and replaceable.

The truth is that effort without vision only strengthens someone else’s dream. The donkey’s labour feeds the master’s ambition.

And that is the silent tragedy of many: they mistake productivity for purpose.

In Sicily, when we do something, we do it grandly — or not at all

“In Sicily, when we do something, we do it grandly — or not at all.
That is why we often do nothing.”
(Pino Caruso)

This remark is both self-irony and deep truth: in Sicily (and not only there), there exists a natural aversion to mediocrity.

Doing things “halfway” is almost an insult to one’s own pride.

The paradox is that this drive toward greatness often becomes a trap.

The “all-or-nothing” mindset leads to postponement — waiting for the perfect moment, the perfect means, the perfect conditions — which rarely ever come.

Marriage

“Marriage is when one person is always right, and the other person is a husband.”

As everyone knows, a successful marriage is simply the art of a man learning to nod, smile, and pretend his opinions matter.

Meanwhile, his wife, blessed with an innate understanding of all things (including his mistakes before he even makes them), gently guides him through life.